My grandmother was in a group home for the last few years of her life in New Mexico. When the scamdemic hit, no one was allowed in except staff. She turned 100 years old in Oct 2020. Coming from out of state (WA), we were shocked to see how much she had deteriorated in the 6 months of the lockdown. We were "allowed" to "celebrate" her 100th birthday by driving in our cars by the home, while she was sitting in a wheelchair on the sidewalk. The head nurse "graciously" allowed us to stand 6 feet away from her on the sidewalk and take a picture to commemorate her Century mark.
About that time, NM's crap governor decreed that nursing home residents would be allowed 1 visitor for 1 hour, once a month. Since I had come from out of state, I was given the honor of sitting on the home's patio, 6 feet away from her, for an hour before I had to head back to WA state and OUR crap governor.
She passed away 5 1/2 months later, almost exactly 1 year after NM's lockdown of care facilities. She had been doing fairly well for her age and medical condition, looking forward to visits from kids, grandkids, great-grandkids, and friends from church. After the lockdown, she seemed to lose her will to live.
When we celebrated her 98th birthday, she told us she "had decided to live to 100 so she could get that letter from the President." She made it to 100 and a bit more, but the last year of her life was lived in solitary confinement, for all intents and purposes. During the 2 weeks before her passing, they allowed 1 person per day to sit with her, 6 feet away, for 1 hour. I am grateful for that much of a reprieve from the draconian measures; I know other families were not allowed even that much
Maybe they did keep some elderly people from dying of the Wu-flu, but at what cost? Every older person I talked with during that time (and to this day) would rather take the risk and be surrounded by their loved ones, than be locked away "for their own good/safety." What good is an extra few months, or a year or two, if you are shut away from all those you love?! It has been over 2 years and the anger and tears are welling up all over again.
My other grandma was kept at home with her oldest daughter, allowed to have visitors and passed away 2 weeks shy of HER 100th birthday, surrounded by her daughters and one granddaughter, the hospital having bent the rules so that more than 1 family member could be with her at the end. (She had fallen and badly broken her leg, came through surgery fine, but her heart gave out after all of the trauma.)
My lesson from all of this: do everything I can to keep my mom and MIL out of hospitals and care facilities.
I'm so sorry for your grandma ... and all the grandmas we were supposedly saving. I have a similar situation in my family. It's too painful to recall again at this moment. There were plenty of crap governors and mayors and especially health officials. Unfortunately my family member was affected the most by Newsom (it's OK for care homes to remain severely understaffed; ratios of 1:6 on a good day were sometimes 1:25) and Cody (severe and unnecessary lockdowns for months; there is NO WAY she did not realize that Covid was already in the county in late 2019, it was too obvious with all the 'severe pneumonia' going around).
Looking back now, it is clear to me that they are no better than the Nazi "leaders" were. And I feel the remorse of not fighting back harder for my family memberS (in the care facility and in school). When I was in school in the 60s and 70s, I often wondered what the average German people could possibly have been thinking. Now I have an idea. Hope I personally 'do better' next time.
My grandmother was in a group home for the last few years of her life in New Mexico. When the scamdemic hit, no one was allowed in except staff. She turned 100 years old in Oct 2020. Coming from out of state (WA), we were shocked to see how much she had deteriorated in the 6 months of the lockdown. We were "allowed" to "celebrate" her 100th birthday by driving in our cars by the home, while she was sitting in a wheelchair on the sidewalk. The head nurse "graciously" allowed us to stand 6 feet away from her on the sidewalk and take a picture to commemorate her Century mark.
About that time, NM's crap governor decreed that nursing home residents would be allowed 1 visitor for 1 hour, once a month. Since I had come from out of state, I was given the honor of sitting on the home's patio, 6 feet away from her, for an hour before I had to head back to WA state and OUR crap governor.
She passed away 5 1/2 months later, almost exactly 1 year after NM's lockdown of care facilities. She had been doing fairly well for her age and medical condition, looking forward to visits from kids, grandkids, great-grandkids, and friends from church. After the lockdown, she seemed to lose her will to live.
When we celebrated her 98th birthday, she told us she "had decided to live to 100 so she could get that letter from the President." She made it to 100 and a bit more, but the last year of her life was lived in solitary confinement, for all intents and purposes. During the 2 weeks before her passing, they allowed 1 person per day to sit with her, 6 feet away, for 1 hour. I am grateful for that much of a reprieve from the draconian measures; I know other families were not allowed even that much
Maybe they did keep some elderly people from dying of the Wu-flu, but at what cost? Every older person I talked with during that time (and to this day) would rather take the risk and be surrounded by their loved ones, than be locked away "for their own good/safety." What good is an extra few months, or a year or two, if you are shut away from all those you love?! It has been over 2 years and the anger and tears are welling up all over again.
My other grandma was kept at home with her oldest daughter, allowed to have visitors and passed away 2 weeks shy of HER 100th birthday, surrounded by her daughters and one granddaughter, the hospital having bent the rules so that more than 1 family member could be with her at the end. (She had fallen and badly broken her leg, came through surgery fine, but her heart gave out after all of the trauma.)
My lesson from all of this: do everything I can to keep my mom and MIL out of hospitals and care facilities.
Mrs. "the Knife"
I'm so sorry for your grandma ... and all the grandmas we were supposedly saving. I have a similar situation in my family. It's too painful to recall again at this moment. There were plenty of crap governors and mayors and especially health officials. Unfortunately my family member was affected the most by Newsom (it's OK for care homes to remain severely understaffed; ratios of 1:6 on a good day were sometimes 1:25) and Cody (severe and unnecessary lockdowns for months; there is NO WAY she did not realize that Covid was already in the county in late 2019, it was too obvious with all the 'severe pneumonia' going around).
Looking back now, it is clear to me that they are no better than the Nazi "leaders" were. And I feel the remorse of not fighting back harder for my family memberS (in the care facility and in school). When I was in school in the 60s and 70s, I often wondered what the average German people could possibly have been thinking. Now I have an idea. Hope I personally 'do better' next time.
Thank you. And I am sorry for your loved ones, as well. None of it should have happened to anyone.
All of us need to keep up the good fight against all of this darkness, in whatever arena we find ourselves.
Peace and blessings to you and yours,
Mrs. "the Knife"