The five emotions are joy, anger, fear, sadness, and disgust. The last one, disgust, when turned inwards, is shame. Every single one has a useful, and a destructive, capacity. Anger indicates that we need to alter something. Fear indicates that we are confronting an unknown. Sadness tells us we must grieve. And disgust/shame tells us what to avoid/not repeat. Without an internal impetus to improve, we end up in a negative ratchet of self-destruction. With too much self-abnegation, same issue. The trick with shame is to acknowledge it and allow it without letting it drive the bus, just as with the other emotions.
I hadn’t heard that term! I’ve worked my way into all this stuff through a constellation of tools, many of which I brought on for myself and then others I’ve learned in real time for my professional practice. Thank you-I’ll look into that.
The five emotions are joy, anger, fear, sadness, and disgust. The last one, disgust, when turned inwards, is shame. Every single one has a useful, and a destructive, capacity. Anger indicates that we need to alter something. Fear indicates that we are confronting an unknown. Sadness tells us we must grieve. And disgust/shame tells us what to avoid/not repeat. Without an internal impetus to improve, we end up in a negative ratchet of self-destruction. With too much self-abnegation, same issue. The trick with shame is to acknowledge it and allow it without letting it drive the bus, just as with the other emotions.
Thanks for my DBT refresher. And I mean this sincerely.
What’s DBT?
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. It was quite effective for me and a few others I know who have tried it. Skills based.
I hadn’t heard that term! I’ve worked my way into all this stuff through a constellation of tools, many of which I brought on for myself and then others I’ve learned in real time for my professional practice. Thank you-I’ll look into that.
Love this!