I don't think it is gaslighting. Those that gaslight are abusers, what you are experiencing is due to them being gaslighted. They are the ones abused. They were told that if you go with the mask, get vaccinated, stay home stay safe, flatten the curve, that we are all in this together...unless you aren't. This doesn't mean they aren't abu…
I don't think it is gaslighting. Those that gaslight are abusers, what you are experiencing is due to them being gaslighted. They are the ones abused. They were told that if you go with the mask, get vaccinated, stay home stay safe, flatten the curve, that we are all in this together...unless you aren't. This doesn't mean they aren't abusers. after all one of the things that abuse victims tend to do is pay it forward. So what can you do? I think they actually believe what they were told...but if they aren't then yes, they would be gaslighting you.
I can tell you it's not political, but it could be governmental, or that could be a factor. I know one conservative and one liberal who both have government jobs. When they came to visit me, both of them were wearing masks, in a house where no one, including seventy year olds, wore masks. I guess we are all just filthy plague spreaders?
There was this one guy at karaoke who talked to me about getting the vaccine. I assured him I wasn't going to get it, this was back last summer.He showed up the next week telling me he got it...his wife encouraged him to get it. Since I am single I have been mostly immune to anyone encouraging me to get the vaccine although I did have someone say "if you have a choice between getting the vaccine and not getting a job, get the vaccine." I felt very sad at that moment. A job was more important than my health or my freedom, at least according to him.
I don't think we are without compassion, it's just at this point, it is overwhelming, so like a pinball machine we have tilted. I can't process how far gone they are.
Throughout the pandemic, I found myself getting into arguments like this:
"What is more selfish, not doing something that kills only .3% of the population, or demanding that everyone do something that only kills .3% of the population? Forget if it works or does not work, it appears pretty radical to be masking, social distance, shut down, lockdown, and change a lot of things just so .3% of the population is protected. Should it not be incumbent upon that .3% to be responsible for themselves.
I don't think it is gaslighting. Those that gaslight are abusers, what you are experiencing is due to them being gaslighted. They are the ones abused. They were told that if you go with the mask, get vaccinated, stay home stay safe, flatten the curve, that we are all in this together...unless you aren't. This doesn't mean they aren't abusers. after all one of the things that abuse victims tend to do is pay it forward. So what can you do? I think they actually believe what they were told...but if they aren't then yes, they would be gaslighting you.
I can tell you it's not political, but it could be governmental, or that could be a factor. I know one conservative and one liberal who both have government jobs. When they came to visit me, both of them were wearing masks, in a house where no one, including seventy year olds, wore masks. I guess we are all just filthy plague spreaders?
There was this one guy at karaoke who talked to me about getting the vaccine. I assured him I wasn't going to get it, this was back last summer.He showed up the next week telling me he got it...his wife encouraged him to get it. Since I am single I have been mostly immune to anyone encouraging me to get the vaccine although I did have someone say "if you have a choice between getting the vaccine and not getting a job, get the vaccine." I felt very sad at that moment. A job was more important than my health or my freedom, at least according to him.
I don't think we are without compassion, it's just at this point, it is overwhelming, so like a pinball machine we have tilted. I can't process how far gone they are.
Throughout the pandemic, I found myself getting into arguments like this:
"What is more selfish, not doing something that kills only .3% of the population, or demanding that everyone do something that only kills .3% of the population? Forget if it works or does not work, it appears pretty radical to be masking, social distance, shut down, lockdown, and change a lot of things just so .3% of the population is protected. Should it not be incumbent upon that .3% to be responsible for themselves.
Indeed it should be incumbent upon that .3% to be responsible for themselves. Agreed!!
I love self-responsibility. It's awesome. But so many people just can't/won't/don't do it.
Can I steal can’t/won’t/don’t as my pronouns?
Sure you can :-D