Indeed. I feel for you. I really do. It’s brutal because we know it didn’t have to be this way.
On 15 February 2020 in response to my dad’s question about this ‘virus thing’ I replied via email “Dad, I smell a dead rat. And it’s already beginning to rot.” In December 2020 he asked me if he should get jabbed. He said he thought it was “s…
Indeed. I feel for you. I really do. It’s brutal because we know it didn’t have to be this way.
On 15 February 2020 in response to my dad’s question about this ‘virus thing’ I replied via email “Dad, I smell a dead rat. And it’s already beginning to rot.” In December 2020 he asked me if he should get jabbed. He said he thought it was “silly” but the retirement community President had sent out a letter saying that if they could get 90% jabbed they would reopen the dining room. He missed his friends. His wife of 73 years had just died. He didn’t see her the last 6 months of her life. He was lonely. Depressed. And he didn’t want to be the one who said no and kept the dining room from opening. And so, despite my pleas, he got in line when the pharmacy showed up with the vials.
11 months later he was dead. I don’t know if he ever drew a connection and I never mentioned it again. I hope he never figured it out. At least I was able to participate in his process of dying. For that I am grateful.
How many millions of stories are there like yours? And mine? From all around the world. We will never know. As you say, we can take a measure of solace in the knowledge we aren’t the only ones.
What a heartbreaking story. So much coercion we must never forget--it didn't have to be an 'official' mandate or a private business' 'legit' rule--there was all that evil 'nudge' bs, too. "Let's lock them down and then see just how far they'll bend if we tell them we'll restore some of the freedoms we just took away..." And face-to-face, in person community is SO important, we all instinctively know isolation is unhealthy, so of course your father would be tempted to take his chances. Good for you for smelling the rat and alerting early on, as I'm sure many of us here did--it STUNK, and you and I did what we could. Cold rage indeed, entirely apropes.
Thank you. Yes he was. And yes I do. I wrote earlier that I try to see it as providential, in that both of my parents lived 20+ years beyond their LE. And they were only apart for a short while at the end. And they are together again, not have to witness the country they loved dissolve at the end of their lives. Thanks again for your kind words. I’ve had so many kind words from people I don’t know. It’s actually quite overwhelming.
For what it's worth, I'll add 1 thing: death isn't the worst thing that can happen to you. Spiritually, it's the loss of your soul. Physically, well, I'm sure we can all imagine certain things than are worse than death.
I'm am so sorry for everything that happened to you and your family. My mom died in mid 2020 but not covid related at all. She died at home and we were together to the end. I can't imagine what you went through not being able to see your mom at the end.
It sounds like your parents are in heaven. Whatever else, make sure you end up with them there in that place. God is not a heartless tyrant (we have plenty of those down here) and would not expect more from you than you are capable of. Ask Him for help.
Thank you for your beautiful thoughts. It’s all good. My parents are together, they don’t have to watch the country they loved and fought for dissolve into a tyrannical Marxist state, and whatever door in heaven opened for my dad (my operating principal is that there are multiple doors) I’m dure he’s already reorganized the staff at least twice. Thank again for your thoughts.
Indeed. I feel for you. I really do. It’s brutal because we know it didn’t have to be this way.
On 15 February 2020 in response to my dad’s question about this ‘virus thing’ I replied via email “Dad, I smell a dead rat. And it’s already beginning to rot.” In December 2020 he asked me if he should get jabbed. He said he thought it was “silly” but the retirement community President had sent out a letter saying that if they could get 90% jabbed they would reopen the dining room. He missed his friends. His wife of 73 years had just died. He didn’t see her the last 6 months of her life. He was lonely. Depressed. And he didn’t want to be the one who said no and kept the dining room from opening. And so, despite my pleas, he got in line when the pharmacy showed up with the vials.
11 months later he was dead. I don’t know if he ever drew a connection and I never mentioned it again. I hope he never figured it out. At least I was able to participate in his process of dying. For that I am grateful.
How many millions of stories are there like yours? And mine? From all around the world. We will never know. As you say, we can take a measure of solace in the knowledge we aren’t the only ones.
What a heartbreaking story. So much coercion we must never forget--it didn't have to be an 'official' mandate or a private business' 'legit' rule--there was all that evil 'nudge' bs, too. "Let's lock them down and then see just how far they'll bend if we tell them we'll restore some of the freedoms we just took away..." And face-to-face, in person community is SO important, we all instinctively know isolation is unhealthy, so of course your father would be tempted to take his chances. Good for you for smelling the rat and alerting early on, as I'm sure many of us here did--it STUNK, and you and I did what we could. Cold rage indeed, entirely apropes.
Your dad sounds like he was a great guy and got to live a long, mostly healthy life. Please remember that.
Thank you. Yes he was. And yes I do. I wrote earlier that I try to see it as providential, in that both of my parents lived 20+ years beyond their LE. And they were only apart for a short while at the end. And they are together again, not have to witness the country they loved dissolve at the end of their lives. Thanks again for your kind words. I’ve had so many kind words from people I don’t know. It’s actually quite overwhelming.
For what it's worth, I'll add 1 thing: death isn't the worst thing that can happen to you. Spiritually, it's the loss of your soul. Physically, well, I'm sure we can all imagine certain things than are worse than death.
I'm am so sorry for everything that happened to you and your family. My mom died in mid 2020 but not covid related at all. She died at home and we were together to the end. I can't imagine what you went through not being able to see your mom at the end.
It sounds like your parents are in heaven. Whatever else, make sure you end up with them there in that place. God is not a heartless tyrant (we have plenty of those down here) and would not expect more from you than you are capable of. Ask Him for help.
Thank you for your beautiful thoughts. It’s all good. My parents are together, they don’t have to watch the country they loved and fought for dissolve into a tyrannical Marxist state, and whatever door in heaven opened for my dad (my operating principal is that there are multiple doors) I’m dure he’s already reorganized the staff at least twice. Thank again for your thoughts.
My heart hurts for you.