I don't know anyone who asks the cake server to scrape off the frosting. They just do that themselves, often because the frosting just overwhelms the cake, not for any reasons of diet or moral superiority. And asking for a smaller slice doesn't involve extra labor (oh, they love that word, don't they?) since the server can just give that…
I don't know anyone who asks the cake server to scrape off the frosting. They just do that themselves, often because the frosting just overwhelms the cake, not for any reasons of diet or moral superiority. And asking for a smaller slice doesn't involve extra labor (oh, they love that word, don't they?) since the server can just give that already-cut-but-too-big piece to someone else, or give the other half of yours to someone else who wants a small piece.
Many times, we women accept a piece of cake that we might not even want just to share in the celebration and not appear ungrateful. Or maybe we just ate a big lunch.
The moral of the story is, if you look for micro-aggresions, you will see them everywhere, and apparently this woman has a PhD in finding them. Seriously, "there is only ever one point of view and it has to be mine" is a terrible position to take. And should be disqualifying for any governmental position.
Your analysis is so good and articulate. The elevation of victimhood as marker of high status is a powerful incentive to conjure those fantastical pretexts for saying, "this is oppressing."
It's some kind of narcissism for someone to think the choices others are making for themselves are really about them.
"I'd like a smaller piece of cake, please."
"Why are you perpetuating unrealistic and sexist body standards that shame me?"
Tonya I appreciate your cakanalysis. It’s extra labor to scape cake frosting or slice another piece but it’s not extra labor to hire a weight czar to create new forms of “labor” out of anything you can think of. No one is qualified for this government position because there are no qualifications. You have to hire based on no qualifications. We are now making up jobs for people because competing for a job is no longer possible…on one side you’re never qualified without qualifications and on the other side you’re overqualified.
That’s a personal decision those some people have to grapple with - to accept the bigger piece and waste food, gorge themselves irrationally, or go without.
Not to mention some of us are diabetic and are not overweight so it's not like anyone can tell by looking. I shouldn't have to apologize or explain for not loading up on sugar.
If someone is offended because others choose to eat healthy, that's THEIR issue - not mine.
I've wondered about the "microaggression" thing since I first heard the word. My SJW warrior friends worked really hard to convince me that it was a real thing. That it caused real harm.
The only one I think I "got" was - I have a friend who is physically shaped differently. I work with bodies, and my gaze might tend to linger on a body which is different - thinking about how things work in that structure. She informed me that this is offensive. I think she's right. Curiosity can be a microaggression in the disabled.
I can't come to a clear conclusion here, only that "microaggression police" is about regulating another minor point. Crying is not an emergency.
I don't know anyone who asks the cake server to scrape off the frosting. They just do that themselves, often because the frosting just overwhelms the cake, not for any reasons of diet or moral superiority. And asking for a smaller slice doesn't involve extra labor (oh, they love that word, don't they?) since the server can just give that already-cut-but-too-big piece to someone else, or give the other half of yours to someone else who wants a small piece.
Many times, we women accept a piece of cake that we might not even want just to share in the celebration and not appear ungrateful. Or maybe we just ate a big lunch.
The moral of the story is, if you look for micro-aggresions, you will see them everywhere, and apparently this woman has a PhD in finding them. Seriously, "there is only ever one point of view and it has to be mine" is a terrible position to take. And should be disqualifying for any governmental position.
The frosting is my favorite part! And I weigh 114
Sounds like you need more frosting.
Your analysis is so good and articulate. The elevation of victimhood as marker of high status is a powerful incentive to conjure those fantastical pretexts for saying, "this is oppressing."
It's some kind of narcissism for someone to think the choices others are making for themselves are really about them.
"I'd like a smaller piece of cake, please."
"Why are you perpetuating unrealistic and sexist body standards that shame me?"
Spot on!!
Yes! Well said!
When someone asks for a smaller slice of cake, I offer to take their big one!😄
I am a man and scraped frosting and quietly threw out the excess cake. I was not the only one. Thank goodness store bought cake is so awful.
Tonya I appreciate your cakanalysis. It’s extra labor to scape cake frosting or slice another piece but it’s not extra labor to hire a weight czar to create new forms of “labor” out of anything you can think of. No one is qualified for this government position because there are no qualifications. You have to hire based on no qualifications. We are now making up jobs for people because competing for a job is no longer possible…on one side you’re never qualified without qualifications and on the other side you’re overqualified.
Or just don’t eat the whole piece. Nobody makes them eat it all.
Some people don't like to waste food.
That’s a personal decision those some people have to grapple with - to accept the bigger piece and waste food, gorge themselves irrationally, or go without.
Not to mention some of us are diabetic and are not overweight so it's not like anyone can tell by looking. I shouldn't have to apologize or explain for not loading up on sugar.
If someone is offended because others choose to eat healthy, that's THEIR issue - not mine.
I've wondered about the "microaggression" thing since I first heard the word. My SJW warrior friends worked really hard to convince me that it was a real thing. That it caused real harm.
The only one I think I "got" was - I have a friend who is physically shaped differently. I work with bodies, and my gaze might tend to linger on a body which is different - thinking about how things work in that structure. She informed me that this is offensive. I think she's right. Curiosity can be a microaggression in the disabled.
I can't come to a clear conclusion here, only that "microaggression police" is about regulating another minor point. Crying is not an emergency.