I have a close friend I met at work some 35+ years ago that also taught me that, just because you're related/family, that doesn't mean you have to spend society's stated amount of time with them. I have a relative that's toxic, keeps a running score of all mistakes over our entire lifetimes, forgives nobody and hopes to inflict vengeanc…
I have a close friend I met at work some 35+ years ago that also taught me that, just because you're related/family, that doesn't mean you have to spend society's stated amount of time with them. I have a relative that's toxic, keeps a running score of all mistakes over our entire lifetimes, forgives nobody and hopes to inflict vengeance ten-fold on everyone who he perceives has harmed him. A while back, I finally saw there was no compassionate/caring value in continuing that relationship. And believe me, my life is far more pleasant and enjoyable without all the personality drama. I love him, but I can't live with him around. He just doesn't value kindness, compassion, and similar civil things. Fine if you want to live that way, but I'm no longer letting anyone drag me into that gutter.
I have a close friend I met at work some 35+ years ago that also taught me that, just because you're related/family, that doesn't mean you have to spend society's stated amount of time with them. I have a relative that's toxic, keeps a running score of all mistakes over our entire lifetimes, forgives nobody and hopes to inflict vengeance ten-fold on everyone who he perceives has harmed him. A while back, I finally saw there was no compassionate/caring value in continuing that relationship. And believe me, my life is far more pleasant and enjoyable without all the personality drama. I love him, but I can't live with him around. He just doesn't value kindness, compassion, and similar civil things. Fine if you want to live that way, but I'm no longer letting anyone drag me into that gutter.