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Keahi's avatar

Rosemary dear, my heart truly goes out to you. I know how this hurts. At present I am not on speaking terms with anyone in my family - all three sisters, and some nephews and a niece who won't go against their mother. This is about politics as well as covid, they are all extreme far-left liberals with unbelievable TDS, they are okay with hormone blockers in kids, etc. I got tired of all the hate and craziness, the gaslighting...so I'm taking a break. It was my choice, so it's not as painful a situation as yours. I think of them every day, and say prayers that no one dies from the jabs they were badgering me to take. I pray that one day we will find reconciliation, but I wonder if it will be possible. My partner had the same thing happen recently with his crazy Karen sister, she yelled and screamed and called him names because of his politics, etc. (she "adores Fauci!"; this is a clue). I think this is happening everywhere, between friends and family members. All I can suggest is, do all you can to stay in touch with your daughter, even if she does not reply, maybe send her ecards here and there and tell her you love her and are thinking of her, just that. Don't mention her husband or the breakup, no beseeching or guilt-tripping (I've been down this road, you see), just let her know you are holding her in your heart. She'll figure it out. Take care of yourself, and remember that love will always prevail. Bless you.

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Keahi. you have found a friend in me.

It has been sooo long since this conversation occurred on Gato's blog.

And here we are almost the end of August.

I could write a novel, but it would not be excellent

So much has occurred these past 4 months. I feel like a different person.

I am so grateful for my husband, and the distraction of caring for my 98 year old father at his very fancy rich people retirement community (Ashby Ponds, Virginia, google it. Amazing, but $$$$$$$) Anyway

Yes I have endured this drama, but other as well. My younger brother is very arrogant, gosh I do not know how much I have shared here. My life these past few years has been like a stupid annoying drama. My hubbs is so stable and calm, he always pulls me back in. I am not weak, but I have a tender heart.

Anyway, My daughter sent us a card and blah blah blah... and "when we feel the time is right, we will connect with you" - yes, sadly, I found that insulting.

When their time is right?

Well, I miss my daughter. I texted her last week and told her I missed her. We used to be very verrrry close. She said she missed me and that was about it. I realized her husband, that I used to really like, actually I loved him. He seemed kind and fun. Now I see a part of him that is in his person. He is controlling. I also see that this is something in his family.

I could really write a book. It would be a boring but my gosh, I have connected so much.

We are still not communicating. I think her husband is in control. Now he works from home too, so there is no way for me to come and visit for a few hours sneaky like. Well, the babies would spill it.

I will end here, but just so you know, I greatly appreciate all of everyones encouraging and most kind words.

All of you that are struggling, I know how you feel, I know where you are standing. Focus on all of the goodness that you have. Keep your heads straight and calm.

I know we are not alone in this. That should be a comfort to us, Right

Love always, Rosemary

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Keahi's avatar

Love to you, too, I am so grateful for you and everyone on here, we are helping one another get through this shipwreck. I really don't know how I would survive without these lifelines of sanity. And we will get through this, I am sure of it, with the grace of God and with truth on our side.

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