I've realized I'm no longer interested in the personality trait 'nice'. Nice does nothing in a crisis, nice still wears a mask to the store, nice still vaccinates themselves and their kids because they are being nice to others. Nice is useless. I'm looking for courage and the last two years showed it's in frighteningly short supply.
I've realized I'm no longer interested in the personality trait 'nice'. Nice does nothing in a crisis, nice still wears a mask to the store, nice still vaccinates themselves and their kids because they are being nice to others. Nice is useless. I'm looking for courage and the last two years showed it's in frighteningly short supply.
Julian Assange reportedly said that it was not long ago that he realised, as he had not before, that there is far more of what we call 'intelligence' to be found among humans than there is of what we call 'courage.' Words to ponder, indeed ...
It really hurts that my dearest sister, a lifelong friend, "did not mind one bit throwing [her] niceness overboard against those [me and my partner, the only unvexed in the family]" whom her flock vilified... she "did not even question [her alarming position] when it came to [her] nearest and dearest."
It's hurt me too, with the 'family' that I come from on both sides ALL choosing to get jabbed (bar one aunt!). But the difference is, I didn't have the best household growing up, so my sister is neither my 'dearest' or a lifelong friend. So it's easier for me to not particularly care what happens to them anymore. You, however, retain both the luxury and the misery of being close to your family. I learned early on that the family I came from was mostly there to hurt me. I chose differently when I came to marry because I knew my upbringing wasn't right and I have made a wonderful family.
So my feelings are twofold for you, finnbuck: I sympathise with you yet love that you are being hurt all in one, only because you actually had the love I always wanted as a kid growing up! I'm sorry for your pain and the grieving you have done (and will continue to do). But please remember the strange silver lining is that you would not feel the way you do if you did not know true love. And that is an amazing thing to experience, even though it currently hurts immeasurably.
I've realized I'm no longer interested in the personality trait 'nice'. Nice does nothing in a crisis, nice still wears a mask to the store, nice still vaccinates themselves and their kids because they are being nice to others. Nice is useless. I'm looking for courage and the last two years showed it's in frighteningly short supply.
Yes, because they're not in fact nice. Their primary concern is showing nice, and this is proved by them getting nasty fast if questioned.
Unqualified тАЬnicenessтАЭ will be the death of this country.
Exactly. Good is what you need to be. Nice is good when its underlying motive is good. Nice paired with evil is evil.
Julian Assange reportedly said that it was not long ago that he realised, as he had not before, that there is far more of what we call 'intelligence' to be found among humans than there is of what we call 'courage.' Words to ponder, indeed ...
Idiocy & cowardice
True in the confrontational, medical sense. But being kind to others unrelated to the dispute is still rewarding and helpful.
What is not rewarding is being nice at my expense. Your freedom ends when it infringes mine. At that point, it's game on.
Ha ha, yes, I have been having WAY too many thoughts that people are "nice, but dumb". You hit the nail on the head, Ki.
What we have needed these past 2 years ARE courageous people, but they have indeed been in short supply.
1000 likes, Ki!
The pack is high on righteous indignation and God help anybody who gets in their way with this critical thinking gobbledegook.
It really hurts that my dearest sister, a lifelong friend, "did not mind one bit throwing [her] niceness overboard against those [me and my partner, the only unvexed in the family]" whom her flock vilified... she "did not even question [her alarming position] when it came to [her] nearest and dearest."
It's hurt me too, with the 'family' that I come from on both sides ALL choosing to get jabbed (bar one aunt!). But the difference is, I didn't have the best household growing up, so my sister is neither my 'dearest' or a lifelong friend. So it's easier for me to not particularly care what happens to them anymore. You, however, retain both the luxury and the misery of being close to your family. I learned early on that the family I came from was mostly there to hurt me. I chose differently when I came to marry because I knew my upbringing wasn't right and I have made a wonderful family.
So my feelings are twofold for you, finnbuck: I sympathise with you yet love that you are being hurt all in one, only because you actually had the love I always wanted as a kid growing up! I'm sorry for your pain and the grieving you have done (and will continue to do). But please remember the strange silver lining is that you would not feel the way you do if you did not know true love. And that is an amazing thing to experience, even though it currently hurts immeasurably.