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Margaret Anna Alice's avatar

It's called DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender), and it's a favorite tool of philanthropaths, tyrants, and other narcissistic abusers:

• "How Narcissists Use DARVO to Avoid Accountability": https://www.verywellmind.com/protecting-yourself-from-darvo-abusive-behavior-7562730

"By denying their actions, attacking the person confronting them, and flipping the roles of victim and offender, the narcissist effectively redirects attention away from their own actions, often causing doubt in the victim's claims."

—Bayu Prihandito

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Diamond Boy's avatar

Think about your own family: depressing. Really your own spouse, children, close friends, colleagues , how many malfunctioned, and how many are now lying about it? Memory hole, yes?

This is one consequence of propaganda; we live in a sea of lies and education is the starting point of the lies. Your children are being abused right now, or should I say disabused of honesty, it is called school. They’re being taught what to think not how to think. Is it any wonder that they are so malleable as adults.

But also readers of this author are a highly selected group. This is our thing we care about truth . Our author is a skilful interpreter of reality. Something like 95% of people are disinterested in honesty and generally figuring it out . They would not read this author. It is not their thing, they don’t care . It is our thing we care which makes it worse.

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